It has been estimated that annually since 2008, Americans spend more than US $ 11.8 billion on self-help materials and programs. However, maintaining a healthy life style is still a challenge and balancing the book is still only a dream for the majority. Likewise, a greater number still wake up every day going to a job they detest. You can simply validate this claim by asking your friends and co-workers how they truly feel about their job.
However, this does not mean that self-help programs are not good, rather it is the percentage of success that I am referring to. It is no secret that many of the success stories used to market these programs come from the very few successes.
Rather than celebrate and advertise those who succeeded through our programs as a means to sign up many others, I chose to spend my time evaluating the many who recorded minimal success or did not succeed at-all. Here are the major reasons:
Reason # 1 – Everybody is not and will never be at the same Place.
While the popular marketing slogan, "If I can do it, you too can" might sound motivational enough to get you started. Realistically, it is not true. Like a fire started with gasoline, it will soon born out after this message wears out.
The reason is simple: everyone is not at the same emotional, physiological, financial, spiritual, and even environmental state. Simply put: our circumstances and opportunities are never the same. For this reason, a program that worked for someone in a supportive healthy relationship might become a disaster for someone going through a divorce. A parent juggling between work and family will require additional efforts to accomplish a result that might come easy for a single guy with a sparkling clean dirt-free apartment.
You must consider where you are at present, as well as the requirements of any program before investing in it. Before you buy a new book, make sure you have a personal reading system that works for your particular circumstance. Otherwise, the book will end up in the shelf after your motivation burns out. To accomplish real results in any area where you desire growth – career, business, family, you need to develop a personal bank of sustainable energy.
Reason # 2 – Personality & Strength Differences
While motivation and self-help programs might make you feel you can do anything and everything, the reality suggests otherwise. Through the help of science and experience we know that the way we learn, communicate, and relate differs from person to person. While it might be fascinating to teach one-size-fit-all systems, processes, and techniques, but it becomes weak in application when people try to force themselves to use them.
For example, there are people who will never succeed in marketing no-matter what you teach them. In reverse, such efforts can create self-esteem problems when people try and fail at something that supposedly "anybody can do".
Therefore, understanding your strengths and personality should be the first step towards any personal and professional development program. It not only helps you to gain insights into your strength, but it makes you aware of your potential weak spots – areas you need more work or where you should get help. Remember, you cannot be a master at everything or you end up a master at nothing. Additionally, learning how to balance your strength is so important because if you stretch your strength too far, it becomes a weakness.
Reason # 3 – Timing
Have you heard those talk that say – there is no better time to do it but now. Well, in reality, there is a time for everything. While it will create better business for the person selling you a product or service that you buy it now, it might not be the better time for you. You might be in certain situations that require professional help or divine help –for the spiritually minded, to overcome certain challenges before you can help yourself.
You can get a coach, mentor, or guide that specializes in your area of ??challenge. Someone with an experience that can give you structured feedback. For example, if you just went through a bitter divorce, there might be issues you need to deal with before embarking on other self-help development efforts. Otherwise, you might be trying to build a new house on a struggling foundation.
Source by Chidi Jacob